I recently talked to a prospective client. His story made me think of one thing, though I didn’t tell him in these words, IT’S TIME TO SOLVE THIS AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!
His story was one I have heard countless times. Siblings fighting. It’s not always clear what exactly they are fighting about and an outside mediator can probably solve everything in 5 minutes. I often say, not to the clients, that issues stem from when they were five years old or at some point when the older sibling was mean to the younger sibling, or the time mom babied the younger sibling and the older sibling felt bad, or whatever. It doesn’t matter the background. The fact is it’s 50-60 years later so let’s help you move on with life.
I am not a therapist or a counselor but my legal services do the same thing sometimes.
My advice is probably what some family law attorneys tell their clients going through a divorce. Put aside your petty differences and focus on GETTING ON WITH LIFE.
I am not saying to just give in. However, I am saying really focus on the BIG PICTURE items. Focus on the big dollar items. Focus on the house worth $300,000 rather than the photo album. Yes, the photo album is important but you can easily duplicate those. Does it REALLY matter if you have the original photos or a copy? It’s the picture, the memory, that matter… isn’t it?
I have worked with other clients who develop serious medical conditions due to the stress their sibling causes them. Family fights aren’t always avoidable but I would say they often are. Focus in and move on!
I think I am really good at working with my client to focus in on the important things. I pride myself at helping my clients GET ON WITH THEIR LIFE. Talk to me if you and your sibling are fighting about mom and dad’s stuff. Maybe we can solve it together!?